Apparently, cutting her sister’s hair out of jealousy only led to more jealousy. The baby sister with all of the curls was now the baby sister with the cute short hair cut and the story of “where did all the curls go?”
To create her own story, Sierra cut her own hair, which Tony took her to Supercuts yesterday before school to get evened up. It was picture day yesterday, too.
We talked a lot about how hair dressers go to school to cut hair, so hopefully this will be the last of the hair cutting for awhile. She likes it, and the best part is that she says she looks like her cousin and that makes her happy.
Some people have said to me that I need to put the scissors up in the house. They are put up. I don’t have them locked in a safe, but they are put away. This is a lesson that if an almost 6 year old wants something, she will get it.
I have seen her cut her hair with toenail clippers.
I know that my method of parenting is different then other people’s. I want Sierra to learn that she has to live with her actions. I want her to learn that some actions you can’t take back. I want her to be self reliant and responsible.
One of the reasons why I haven’t had many playgroups at my house lately is my feeling that my house is no longer baby safe. How did that happen?
For example, if you have one child and it is a baby, you can lock the doors and know that the baby isn’t going to crawl outside. However, if you have a 6 year old who can unlock the doors and even use the child safety door knob (which we don’t have) the outside is now suddenly accessible.
Another example…and this happened two days ago…
Someone gives your older daughter a beaded bracelet at a birthday party. The beads are big, but still a hazard to a baby. Madeleine is almost 3, so you think that you are “safe” and you don’t think twice about Sierra having the bracelet. The bracelet breaks. Beads end up on the floor and Sierra cleans up all the beads, except for that one, that nobody sees… except for Madeleine. Madeleine picks it up and knows not to eat it.
However, she decides that it looks like an earring and shoves the bead into her ear. My cousin extracted the bead, so we didn’t have to take Madeleine to the ER. I will easily admit that I was about 2 seconds away from driving there. It just goes to show you how easily an older child can un-baby proof your house and why sometimes I am feeling more and more uneasy about having other people’s kids over.
I started to write about parenting and how it changes from when you are parenting a baby or toddler to parenting an actual child. I know that sounds silly, but as Sierra is transitioning into a kid so is my parenting. I am learning that some of my methods aren’t working like they use to. I am learning that training a dog is way easier than training a child, ha ha. I am learning that kids can start developing these traits that if you don’t stop the behavior while they are this age that it could continue when they are older and get them into trouble. Also, it isn’t easy to change a kid’s behavior.
What translates on book and online is so different when it is your own child.
I am getting the idea that if Sierra is busy in positive activities all of the time, then she won’t have time to be sneaky and do things she shouldn’t be doing. I look forward to when she goes to school full time in the fall.